Early Parenting Tips

Let us sacrifice our today so that our children can have a better tomorrow

APJ Abdul Kalam

This post is dedicated to all new mothers.

In this post, I would like to focus on a few difficulties I faced during the upbringing of my children, up to about the age of about 3 years. I have always tried to learn from the mistakes of others and hence was extra cautious during my children’s formative years. Some of the problems I faced during that time were common to everyone, and I will be talking about how I dealt with them.

Preventing Thumb Sucking

It is known that a child starts sucking their thumb whenever they feel lonely. My daughter, being the first born never had that problem as I was at her side all the time. My son however started sucking his thumb as I had to divide my time between my two children. Thumb sucking can lead to dental as well as speech related problems. When I noticed my son sucking his thumb, I first put socks on his hands to prevent him from sucking his thumb, but lo and behold, he started sucking his toe. Then I tried putting socks on both hands and feet and he started sucking on the socks. I finally decided to start monitoring him whenever he was awake and within three days of monitoring, I managed to get him to stop sucking his thumb. This is something that can be easily dealt with if caught early and be a terrible headache if the habit is well formed.

How I Improved Immunity

I never bottle fed my children or gave them baby food available in the market. When they were 3.5 months old, I started giving them banana shake regularly and at the age of 6 months, I started feeding them khichdi (mixture of rice, pulses, mixed vegetables, egg all cooked in a cooker and then coarsely ground in a mixer). Due to the balanced and nutritious diet, they rarely got sick which also helped them with teething. My children did not exhibit any teething symptoms like diarrhoea, vomiting, rashes, fever, fussiness or extensive crying. Rather, it was a cakewalk for me and on one fine day, I just noticed an erupted tooth in the lower jaw of both my children.

Teaching Sense of heat

Whenever I used to iron clothes, my children, especially my son used to think of the iron as a toy and tried to touch the hot surface. This scared me as I had seen other children suffering from burns due to this. I decided to make them touch the hot surface of the iron before it got too hot and that ensured they did not try to touch it again and hence did not get burnt by this. Prevention is better than cure.

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Every cloud has a silver lining

After getting married in 1993, I shifted from Delhi to a colony next to a cement factory where my husband worked which was located in a remote area. Back then, there were no proper roads, no telephones, no proper hospitals, no restaurants or movie theatres. For daily needs, we had a small cooperative store. To talk to my parents and relatives, I had to travel 4kms to the nearest telephone.

Despite these circumstances, I enjoyed living there because there was no pollution. My husband’s office was only 2kms away and the travelling time was low, unlike metros. I found myself loving the calm environs of the colony and didn’t miss the hustle and bustle of the city. People in the colony were very amiable. They helped me a lot in setting up my house and also during my pregnancy. Some of them are life long friends now. I’m a glass half full kind of a person so I enjoyed every situation. A positive attitude goes a long way.

We should try to make the best out of our situation rather than cribbing about what we don’t have. Happiness is that kind of choice that we make and create for ourselves.

I will highly appreciate your opinion and feedback regarding my blog. In my next post, I will write about my experience with the holistic development of my young kids.

An Introduction

Be yourself; Everyone else is already taken.

— Oscar Wilde.

I’m Vibha Pandey. I graduated from Kirori Mal College, Delhi University and an Honours Diploma in System Management from NIIT Delhi. After that I joined Dabur India as Systems Analyst. I tied the knot in 1993 and was the mother of two children by 1996. I quit my job to take care of my family.

I’m happily married for the last 26 years. Being the mom of my two wonderful children is my career. My daughter did her MBBS from AIIMS Bhopal and my son did his B.Tech from IIT Delhi. My husband is the Director of Operations in a Renowned Company based out of Hyderabad.

I ensured that all my family members maintained a healthy lifestyle, even though we have had to live away from each other at various stages of our lives. For our children’s education, I had to move to Delhi, away from my husband. After they were admitted into their respective colleges, both my children stayed in hostels. Even though people let go of their health when there is no one around, I ensured that everyone maintained a healthy lifestyle. All of our medical parameters are normal, which might be normal for people in my children’s age group, but is quite a rarity for people in me and my husband’s age group.

In this blog, I will be talking about my strategy in the making of a doctor and an engineer from elite institutes along with maintaining good health.

This is the first post on my new blog. I’m just getting this new blog going, so stay tuned for more. Subscribe below to get notified when I post new updates.