Getting on in years

Don’t use the sharpness of your tongue on the mother who taught you to speak.

Ali IBN Abi Talib

In this post I would like to remind children on importance of parents on their holistic development that they seem to have forgotten, why the number of old homes is increasing and lastly I would like to extend my help to old parents whose children have left them in old homes by giving free counselling to them so that they should live happily together.

My children with their grandparents

Parents are considered as God. They play biggest role in our lives. Whether it’s our mental, physical, social, financial or career development, parents help us at every step of life. When we are young, parents prepare us for the future. Parents live for us. Their happiness depends on us.

A mother keeps a child in her womb for 9 months and tolerates the pain of breaking more than 100 bones. We can’t even imagine her pain. And yet, when the child grows up, they scold her and talk to her in a loud voice. She takes all the responsibility of the house but never complains about it. She sacrifices many things for her children.

With my parents in office

A father works day and night and struggles a lot for the comfort of his children. A father never let his child know the cost of things and gives him/her all the luxury he can. Do you know that nowadays the cost of education has increased a lot? If he wanted to, he could have all the luxuries and comforts for himself, but he would always wants his kids to have the best future they can and does his best to provide for them.

Understand the importance of parents now only because they can’t be with you forever but they will give their everything to you.

With my grandmother( my god)

Old age homes are designed to give shelter and provide a place to live for those who have no one to care for them, but today people are making it a tradition where they leave their parents. They think they will never grow old. Today they are leaving their parents to old age homes, tomorrow their children are going to treat them the same. You reap what you sow.

My son with his grandmother

Parents never leave you when you are young, so never leave them when they are old. I would like to ask my readers a few questions for which I want to know their opinion.

  • When a child is born with some congenital disease or some syndrome do parents leave them to orphanage? They spend all their money in searching for a Doctor who can treat their child. They leave no stone unturned in the treatment of their child. Sometimes they don’t care about their career, then why in old age if their parents suffer from dementia, children prefer leaving them at an old age home?
  • Poor parents don’t leave their children to orphanage in lack of money, they feed them by keeping themselves hungry many a times. But in old age, why children leave their parents to old age home with the excuse that they can’t afford their parents?

Parents never ever want to stay in any old age home even if it has five star facilities. They want to be with their children and grandchildren. We should always be empathetic. Always try to imagine ourselves in their position and act accordingly.

If children are priorities of parents why can’t parents be priority of children?

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For Stress Management: Practice Yoga

Yoga is the journey of the self, through the self, to the self.

The Bhagwad Gita

Everyone can practice yoga, from the young to the old. Only laziness stands in the way.

In this post I would like to discuss about importance of yoga and walking and how it helped me in leading a stress free and healthy life.

Do you wish to live a life where anxiety stays at bay and you are able to smile even through the tough days? All this is very much possible when you say yes to yoga. The best of life is just an effort away when you resolve to work to be your active self, absolutely in shape both physically and mentally. I have learnt all these from my father. He is full of life. He is hale and hearty at the age of 72. He is my role model. He has always maintained himself so well that now also he can eat butter generously.

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We reap the physical benefits of regular walking and yoga, we strengthen the heart, burn calories, lower risk of disease, increase circulation and improves stamina. Walking is a weight bearing exercise that helps build bone density. We receive natural dose of Vitamin D, the sunshine vitamin. With integration of yoga pose, we begin to build strength, improve stability and increase flexibility and most importantly you don’t have to go to beauty parlour for facials!

Always in happy mood

Few years back when I started taking my health for granted, my blood pressure, cholesterol, Triglycerides increased and thyroid levels started to look worrisome. I rushed to a doctor who advised me to start medication. I requested the doctor to give me one month time I will make efforts to make all the parameters normal. Initially the doctor refused but then relented. I knew where I was going wrong. I made a time table and started following it rigorously. I used to start my day with 1hr 15 minutes brisk walking followed by 1 hr rest and then 1 hour yoga session. I started taking a balanced diet and cutting down on oil. Within 15 days my blood pressure came down to normal and within one month thyroid level also became normal. We should include vegetables, fruits and sprouts in our diet. After that scare, I’m following the routine and leading a healthy life.

To keep up good health, it is absolutely necessary for one to indulge in physical activities which help in reducing stress, provides a healthier and better outlook and also increases the body’s resistance against complications like heart problems, high Blood Pressure.

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Stress free with my husband
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Wellness Program Ideas

When it comes to eating right and exercising, there is no “I’ll start tomorrow”. Tomorrow is a disease.

V L Allinear

Fitness starts at home. You are what you eat, just as what you sow is what you reap.

In this post I would like to focus on how I maintained the good health of me and my family. To start with, I would like to mention that since I was a kid, say 3 or 4 years of age, I had seen my grandfather (maternal) doing yoga exercises. I used to imitate him and developed an interest in yoga. Later on, in my school we had yoga classes twice a week. I used to do all yoga poses comfortably and used to be praised for it by my teachers.

My son learning to climb tree
Playing cricket

I married a mechanical engineer who was working for a cement plant in remote area. I left my job and became a homemaker. My husband was very busy with his plant just like doctors are busy with their patients. His job needed a lot of activity so he didn’t need separate workout. But I used to do yoga. When I became a mother I had to steal time for my yoga. When my children started going to school, I had to wake up early for my fitness program. I used to do brisk walking in the morning for one hour then I used to wake up my husband then children.

Playing with friends

I have always encouraged my children to play outdoor games which is very important for maintaining good mental and physical health which in turn help them in concentrating on studies. We used to play family cricket and badminton with kids whenever my husband gets time out of his busy schedule.

My husband doing brisk walking

Today my children are 25 and 23 years old me and my husband are fit and fine. Now my husband is in corporate world so he is also working out (walking and yoga) thrice a week. We usually do 8kms of brisk walking. Our medical parameters are perfect.

Jogging

Now I’ll discuss how a working woman can maintain good health of herself and her family.

Getting up a few minutes earlier in the morning can provide you with some quiet time to exercise before the kids wake up. Start walking your kids to school or to the bus stop. While watching your favourite programme on TV you can do yoga poses. While talking over phone you can walk and talk. You can join some gym near your work; go outside and play with your children. Gardening can be a light refreshing workout too.

At the end I would like to say that everyone has only 24 hours in a day. What matters is how we utilize them.

In the next post I will focus on how yoga and walking helped me in fighting thyroid and blood pressure.

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Bringing out the best in our children

When my daughter was one year old, she started recognizing the alphabets. At night, my husband used to read bedtime stories for our kids. He has always been fond of the Indian Mythological stories and used to tell those stories to them. This ignited this flame in my daughter to start reading on her own.

At that time, I had a habit of taking an afternoon nap. My daughter took that opportunity to read stories from ‘Champak’ to me so that I didn’t have to make any extra effort into helping her read. But the real fire in her was ignited when my husband who was away on a work trip came back with the first installment of the Harry Potter series. She used to spend all her time reading that book. When children are that young, they follow what they like and it is very important for parents to spot these ‘obsessions‘ that their children develop and help them nurture their talents from a very young age.

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Those days, there used to be another kids magazine, ‘Nandan’. My daughter used to devour it, it was the most advanced text she had ever been given the chance to read. One day, she said that she had solved a crossword puzzle and wanted to send in her solution to the magazine. Not thinking much of it, we obliged. I still remember the day she got a reply from the magazine saying that she had solved the puzzle correctly and had earned a reward of 100 Rs for doing so. It was such a wonderful day for all of us, the first of so many to come.

The next challenge we faced was transitioning her reading habits from Hindi to English. My daughter was a book reading machine by then, always hungry for more. We had a much more difficult challenge ahead of us, arranging the novels and magazines was hard at that time, considering that we lived in a remote area. Whenever we used to go out, we were always on the lookout for bookstores to feed the book hungry monster back home. To this day, she is the happiest when she is reading. Reading, not studying ;).

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As for my son, he used to try to copy everything that his sister did. If she is reading a novel, he wanted to read it too. If she is playing in the garden, he wanted to play with her too. But of course, when she was studying, he ignored this habit and kept playing. He too became an avid reader, but he picked up this habit much later, something that I will talk about in a future post.

I have always looked on the brighter side of any situation. When other’s were busy gossiping, I was planning for the future of my children. It is always easy to make excuses and shrug responsibilities, but I took it as a challenge. I could also have shifted to Delhi for my kids’ education, but I didn’t want to separate my children from their father. Where there is a will, there is a way.

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Holistic Development of a Child

Don’t worry if your children never listen to you, worry that they always watch you. In this post, I would like to focus on how I struggled to raise my children.

Raising children is one of the most challenging yet rewarding experiences of our lives. Parents play the same role in shaping their children that a potter plays in shaping a beautiful pot from clay. Childhood lessons are of utmost importance as those values are ingrained in the child and are the backbone of their personality. I would like to mention a few of them:

Developing Social Skills:

Before starting school every child’s first interaction starts with the immediate family and relatives which is the first step towards socialization. We should encourage them to look into their eyes and communicate to build confidence. We should also help them learn appropriate greetings and general social behaviour. When they start going to school their social frame gets extended. They started learning to be friendly, accommodative and adaptable to their social surroundings. Such kids grow up with the ability to adjust to any environment, which is very important to their personal and professional life.

Flexibility :

Children make friends when they start going to school. This is where they start learning how to deal with uncomfortable situations like teasing, bullying and general awkwardness. Parents today unnecessarily interfere for the smallest of inconveniences. Please be sure of the seriousness of the situation before interfering. I always encouraged my children to resolve disputes between friends by themselves and never tried to indulge.

Curiosity :

Curiosity helps the intellectual development of a child. Parents should always take interest in answering their child’s questions, no matter how monotonous or repetitive they get. My children never let me rest with the constant bombardment of questions that I used to answer the best I could. My son used to disassemble and then reassemble his toys. It is important to nurture this inquisitiveness. Growing up isn’t only about academic excellence, but also about understanding what the kids are interested in.

Empathy :

Care, love, kindness and compassion should be taught to children. A child learns this by noticing and watching their parents and other people that surround them. Children are very perceptive, they observe the little things and learn from them. Parents are the role models for children. Please maintain an ethical code of conduct at home. Children are very quick to pick up the attitude that the parents have towards friends, colleagues, domestic helps etc. They also learn a lot from the empathy and kindness with which we help someone in need, be it someone who needs financial aid or someone who is sick and needs to be looked after. We should try to teach moral values and important life skills in conjunction with academic knowledge.

Dear readers, I hope you like this post. Please feel free to post your comments, questions, suggestions or feedback. In my next post I will talk about inculcating good reading habits in young children.